Elly Lily: CREATING CONFIDENCE

Wednesday, July 6

CREATING CONFIDENCE


Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog! This week's post is going to be a good one because (1) I am in a fantastic mood caused from getting Starbucks, new stationary, and an early productive start on the day! And (2) this post is all about confidence and how to create a confident vibe in what ever you do!

don't compare
First I would like to say that creating confidence is a journey and  does not happen overnight.

Everyone goes through their own adventure of creating confidence and becoming comfortable in their own skin. So never ever compare yourself to others and think "why am I so awkward and shy?" or "why cant I be comfortable in myself?" throw those thoughts away...right now. Just toss them out of your mind, those thoughts are such a waste of time and you don't deserve to be telling yourself that.

Keep in mind that everyone has either gone through or is going through a time where they don't feel very confident in who they are or how they look, I certainly am not perfectly confident and I do find myself being shy and awkward, but just like everyone I am on the journey of creating confidence and becoming me. It takes time to get to a point where you can say that you truly love yourself.

Never compare your journey to someone else's because they have a different story and are in a different place then you.

you are awesome!



The first step in creating confidence is knowing that you are awesome

You deserve your love! Always start the day off looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you are beautiful, hard working, incredible, etc. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Tell yourself that you are an amazing human being and you can light up the whole world!
Don't care if people mistake you for being vain.
vain is thinking you are prettier and better then everyone else. Confidence is know that you are pretty and awesome and also knowing that everyone else is amazing as well.

I found this amazing quote that goes perfectly with this subject:

"TRUE CONFIDENCE HAS NO ROOM FOR JEALOUSLY AND ENVY.
WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE GREAT. YOU HAVE KNOW REASON TO HATE."

Do whatever makes you happy, set out little inspirational notes for yourself, tell yourself and others "you are awesome!" wear whatever crazy outfits you want, Do you.

fake it till you are it

There was a fantastic TED talk where Amy Cuddy talked about the "power pose" and how body language shapes your self esteem. Check it out here 

In the video she tells us how the way we hold ourselves effect your confidence.
The next time you are having a social gathering of any sort, Carry yourself with confidence, don't hold yourself in a small pose and walk sheepishly around the room.
There was also this great article on "How to Fake Confidence" of which you should totally go read,
Check that out here!

She also mentions to "fake it till you are it"
Meaning fake confidence. pretend that you are confident and comfortable in your body.
Fake it till you become it.


never apologize



Okay so of course you must apologize for things like hurting someone and that sort of thing.
But never apologize for being you.
Never come across like your opinion doesn't matter.
Saying things like "It's just an idea" or "but, I am fine with anything"
Get your ideas out there and don't ever apologize for living.
You deserve to give out ideas, be confident, and life your life to the fullest just as much as anyone else!
don't hold back

Live your life the fullest.
like something? Put your heart into it, love it, go at it full swing
Workout and eat healthy food. Your body is worth taking care of.
Wear fun clothing, decorate your room. Express yourself in anything you do.
Do little things that make you happy.
call yourself a silly nickname, dye your hair and cut it, wear lots of makeup, wear no makeup,
smile a tone, make dorky puns and jokes, get obsessed over books, listen to music, dance crazily in your room. love whoever you want,

Be you and don't ever stop to apologize, think of other useless opinions, or think of yourself badly.
treat yourself like your best friend.

Go take on the day and rock this!

                                                                                                                            

6 comments:

  1. This is a great post! I really like the part about the difference between confidence and vanity :)

    Ellie | On the Other Side of Reality

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    1. Thank you so much Ellie! Glad you liked it!

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  2. I love these tips. Especially the one about not apologizing. I apologize far too often for things that don't need it. I will have to remember this post next time I'm about to do that. Thanks for the advice!
    Sophie | The Techno Maid

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    1. Thank yo Sophie! So happy you enjoyed the tips! and so glad this is helpful! <3

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